Congratulations to our sweet little princesses, which bring us so much joy and love!!
SHARING THE CHILDCARE RESPONSIBILITY
Parents who have highly demanding jobs must rely on someone else to take the major responsibility for child care. Taking sole responsibility for parenting (child care) while holding down a full-time job is like trying to light a candle with just half of a match–it’s a lot easier to get your fingers burned. And the chances of lighting the candle properly are just not as good. Sometimes it works–if it’s a fairly easy candle to light or if the candle is older & has been lit before–but sometimes it does not. Some candles are just harder to light than others & require more time, & it’s the same way with children. Some children are more difficult to rear & they simply require more time from one or a variety of caregivers.
Qualifications of the Caregiver
- The caregiver should be supportive of the parents. Leslie, the mother of three small boys, was going through a very difficult period in her life. She was forced to keep a demanding full-time job because her husband did not have a regular job & was very irresponsible about his family obligations. Leslie had searched for the right type of care for her children & finally found another mother of three who was willing to watch her boys for a reasonable rate. Leslie promised to pick up her children before suppertime each evening. But she was not able to keep her promise on certain evenings when her husband took their only car & did not return on time. This, of course, infringed on the caregiver’s family because they wanted to have supper alone. The caregiver would put the three little boys in another room & feed her own children. When the boys would cry, “We’re hungry,” the caregiver would say, “I’m sorry. Your mother promised to be here to pick you up before supper & if she really cared about you & loved you she would be here.”
Such a seemingly innocent remark. But in reality this was much more painful to these little boys than a spanking would have been. When this was said every time Leslie was unable to pick up her children on time, it slowly destroyed the children’s belief that their mother really loved & cared about them. And in their confusion of feelings they began to reason that if their mother, their very own mother, did not love & care for them, then they must not be very worthwhile little people.
Do not let this happen to your children. Be very careful to communicate with the caregiver so she can support you & help your children understand how much you love them even though you must be away from them part of the day.
- The caregiver should be a master at combining love & discipline. Too often, babysitters allow the child to get away with anything. On the other extreme, they may dictate & punish the child into submission.
- The caregiver should be open & willing to learn. It is difficult to work with anyone who thinks that she knows all the answers. A caregiver should be open to new suggestions, & should not feel threatened when you disagree. She should be capable of making good decisions without having to ask you for detailed instructions. On the other hand, don’t abdicate your responsibility as the parent & take a back seat when it comes to child rearing.
- The caregiver should be the kind of person you want your children to grow up to be. Because children are master imitators, you want them to spend time with someone who has personality traits that you will enjoy seeing exhibited in your children’s behaviour. Look for a happy, enthusiastic, optimistic person who loves children. Next, look for evidence of orderliness, honesty, integrity, firmness to principle, & patience.
- The caregiver should be willing to teach your child. A good caregiver should be willing to teach whenever the teachable moment occurs. If everyone is sunbathing outside & your child is busy watching a line of ants & asks, “Where are the ants going?” you don’t want the caregiver to say, “I’m reading a book, don’t bother me.” Rather, you want her to put down the book, get up & say, “That’s a good question. Let’s follow them as far as we can.” Your children should have every learning opportunity that they would have if you were home with them full time.
Some children have a difficult time adjusting to new situations. Even though the situation seems ideal to you, your child may not be happy with the care that you have arranged. To ease your child’s adjustment, let him get to know the caregiver in your presence. Act confident & matter-of-fact about the decision that you have made. If your child perceives that you are hesitant about the childcare arrangements & feel guilty about leaving him, he is more likely to put on a good crying show for you & give you plenty of reasons for staying. If you feel confident, that attitude will help your child to adjust to the new experience.
Don’t be surprised if your child breaks down in a flood of tears when you return, even though he may have been happy & contentedly playing while you were away. This is natural. He has experienced many emotions during your absence & the sight of a familiar person will release all these emotions at once.
Questions about Child Care
1.How do you handle your own jealousy when your child seems to like the babysitter more than you?
Answer: Spend more time with your child. This is a sign that you have not spent enough quality time together with your child, so your relationship has not continued to grow. Be thankful you have found a person your child enjoys so much. If the caregiver is supportive of you, you have nothing to worry about.
- What guidelines should I give my school age children when I leave them alone? (Editor: It’s far preferable to never be faced with this kind of situation except in extreme emergencies. It’s much safer to make sure a responsible adult is with your children almost continually. However, these tips are helpful should such an emergency occur, & are also good to share with friends who may be parents of such “latch-key kids.”)
Answer: It is important to give them the following common-sense instructions:
- Keep the doors locked, even if you only leave the house for a short time. Keep an extra key holder outside the house in case you lose your keys.
- If someone comes to the door, don’t open it unless you recognise both the name & the voice. Don’t tell anyone that you are home alone. Politely ask them to come back later, or ask them to go next door if they need help.
- Don’t give your name when answering the phone. Don’t tell a caller that you are alone. Take a message & tell the caller that your parents will return the call.
- If you receive a crank call, hang up immediately.
- Don’t entertain friends without first getting parental permission.
- If in doubt about the safety or sensibleness of an activity, ask your parents’ approval first.
- Be predictable. Be where your parents expect you to be at the time they expect.
- Keep emergency phone numbers handy.
- Write down the procedure to follow in case of an emergency, such as fire, accident, or illness.
- Keep the house neat & do what you can to prepare for your parents’ arrival. For example: Finish your chores and your homework; start dinner if you have your parents’ approval; and think of something you can do to pleasantly surprise your parents.
Hello everyone, we are back with the second excursion to a flower nursery and an organic farm that we visited last month. The children got busy themselves and planted fenugreek seeds, coriander seeds, spinach, onion and radish seeds. Now after diligently watering the plants for a month, the little plants are surfacing. We also already had one harvest of fenugreek leaves. The children learned that little things like diligently watering will bring fruits and they were excited that it all payed off.
To all art lovers
At Sunbird, we encourage and introduce all the arts, crafts, music and important sciences available. This time, at the graceful invitation of the Sirsi’s, Sunbird headed out to their home. The Field trip proved to be quite the entertainment. Besides the atelier in the home, the familiy Sirsi explained the outdoors, which was amazing. Everyone was captured at so many new things to be learned. Thank you, dear Family Sirsi, for opening the door to us and of course, Sandhya for all the lovely work the children were able to admire.
There are many little ways to enlarge your child’s world. Love of books is the best of all.
–Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
Everyone at Sunbird has welcomed the rain these past weeks. The children have been introduced into farming and gardening. The theme was ‘South Indian Flora’. It is so rich in variety, that it was a difficult choice for the teachers to pick the ‘right’ plants, vegetables and herbs. So as a start, Sunbird students visited an organic farm of a friend nearby. He explained the way he looks after his vegetables and fruits. The children also learned about the word ‘irrigation’. Thereafter, they loved to ‘dig’ themselves into our own little ‘Sunbird earth.’ with the help of Albert, the master farmer.
We hope you liked our last year’s series with the joys of…… If you have not gone through everything, you will always find it again in older posts.
In the meantime, we feel compelled to share more articles in support for busy parents. Therefore our new series titled Prime-Time-Parenting is tailored to bring your parenthood to top notch quality. Without further ado we let the article speak for itself.
PRIME-TIME PARENTING!–By Kay Kuzma
Prime-Time Parenting will teach you how to get the biggest benefits from the limited time you have to spend with your children. You can work & be a successful parent. It is possible to combine a paying job–even a demanding career–with the job of parenting, & raise healthy, happy, competent children. But it isn’t easy. And there are no magic formulas that produce immediate success. Just as you must study & strive to become more skilled at your “job-for-pay,” you must be willing to study & strive to become more skilled at your prime-time parenting job. This book is an essential starting place.
QUALITY-TIME TOGETHER: THE KEY TO SUCCESS
Time is a precious commodity in which we all have been served an equal portion. How we choose to spend that time is our decision. Time can be wasted or invested. As I see it, there are two ways to invest our time. One is in the building of things–better jobs, a good reputation, a clean house, professional competence, a new home, a gourmet meal, a vacation by the lake, a summer cottage, or an extra TV set. The other is in building of relationships–with oneself, a spouse, children, family & friends.
You may have a lifetime to build relationships with friends, neighbours, or even a spouse. But the critical time to build a meaningful relationship with your children is limited to the few short years they are growing up in your home.
How much time should parents spend with their children? The amount of time a child needs to develop to his optimum capacity cannot be measured in minutes & hours. It can only be measured in the child’s total physical & psychological well-being. If you were to err in the amount of time you give your child, err on the side of too much time rather than too little.
Here is the dilemma. The ideal child-bearing time is between the ages of twenty-one & twenty-nine when the female body is at the peak of its performance to insure a healthy, normal baby. However, this is also the very worst time period for most young parents to find the extra hours needed to care for & nurture their offspring. In most families Mom & Dad find themselves the busiest during the very years that their children’s needs are the greatest.
During these critical child-rearing years, parents who choose to invest some of their time in responsibilities outside the home must commit themselves to quality time together with their children if they wish to build a solid parent-child relationship. Such a commitment involves two key ingredients:
1) Parents must carve out as much time as possible for the family; &
2) they must use that time as effectively as possible.
Quality Time Together versus Negative & Nothing Time Together. Every minute that you spend with your children is prime time. You’re on stage, so to speak, influencing & teaching them by your words & behaviour–whether you want to or not. So, in parent-child relationships, spending time together is not enough. To make that time meaningful it must be quality time. Careful thought & planning must be a prerequisite for successful parenting.
There are three ways in which parents & children can use time together. Q.T.T–quality time together–is the key to success. The other two types are N.T.T.s–negative time together & nothing time together.
N.T.T. #1–negative time together–is deadly to parent-child relationships. Such time is filled with discord, dissension, & conflict. The home, the car, or anyplace where the family assembles can become a battleground. Although the primary weapons are usually words, it is not uncommon for “fists” to follow.
N.T.T. #2 refers to nothing time together. Although the family is “together,” or at least in close proximity, & there is no outward conflict, the TV is blaring, the dog is barking, & Dad has barricaded himself in the study to do the income tax. Mom has been gossiping on the phone for an hour. Her message to Junior is, “Go outside & play & don’t bother me today!” Nothing time together may not destroy relationships as quickly as negative time together, but it does eventually tear them down, & certainly does nothing to build or repair them.
Q.T.T. is the most important factor in building healthy & wholesome parent-child relationships. Q.T.T. may be a noisy family celebration; a quiet evening at home listening to daughter practice her music–correcting her when necessary; a sleepless night nursing a fevered child; a holiday spent cleaning out the garage; or an hour spent in animated discussion of a family problem. Whatever the activity, quality time together should convey several all-important messages: “I love you,” & “I want to be close to you,” “I enjoy you,” “You’re fun to be with.”
Putting Quality Time Together into Practice. The importance of quality time together can hardly be disputed, yet agreeing with the concept is much easier than consistently putting it into practice. It is easier to know what you should do than to take the time to do it.
How do you determine whether a child is receiving enough parental time? If he is old enough, ask him. In a recent survey eleven-year-olds were asked this very question. Over 50 percent of the children with working mothers said they wished their mothers would spend more time with them. But the surprising finding was that approximately 30 percent of the children whose mothers were classified as “nonworking” wished the same thing! Apparently this is not just a working parent’s problem!
Negative behaviour is often a sign of parental time deficiency. Young children equate love with parental attention. If they do not receive their fill of positive attention, they sometimes resort to behaviour that will, without question, bring negative attention. In their way of thinking, even negative attention is better than no attention at all. Therefore, parents must learn to distinguish the hidden meaning behind a child’s action.
Preschoolers generally thrive on parental time. A ten-year-old, on the other hand, may be happy with an audience for her memorised tuba solo, a fifteen-minute rough-&-tumble session, & a good-night kiss.
There is no single pattern that all children follow. To fill a child’s need for parental time successfully, you must tune in to your child & fill a need as it surfaces. There is one important rule to remember: Ignoring a need for parental time will only increase the intensity of that need.
Make Parenting an Equal-Status Career. Parenting is the most important career a mother or father can pursue. It has critical, deep-seated, & long-term effects. In this one career no one else can substitute for you with the same degree of meaning. No one can ever really take your place. Yet, in our society, parenting has been relegated to a rather low-status position because it doesn’t measure up on those variables that usually determine status.
A low-status career often negatively affects the attitude of the worker. If you feel parenting is a second-rate job & therefore unworthy of your time, your best efforts, & your full attention, you will do a second-rate job.
The only answer to the problem is to give parenting equal status with other careers. Nothing can equal the value of a child’s life!
Specifically, if you view parenting as an equal-status career, you will:
- Prepare for your employment. Learn all you can about child development, discipline, & methods of effective parenting. When you prepare for your parenting career thoughtfully, you will do a better job & enjoy it more.
- Devote adequate time to the career to assure success. Don’t just rely on the few minutes of leftover time from another career.
- Perform as a professional. When you accept a job that you hope to keep, your behaviour must be professional. Plan & organise your job of parenting as you would execute your professional career. It will make the job easier & it will also help to insure Q.T.T.
If you, as a prime-time parent, consider your parenting job as an equal-status career, then you will more readily see that time you spend with your children is time put to the highest use.
Take Advantage of “Wasted” Time. A prime-time parent can create more Q.T.T. by utilising time that must be spent with children to the fullest advantage. Young children must be washed, diapered, clothed & cuddled. Older children have to be chauffeured, chaperoned & disciplined. Parents who are eager to use their skills to reach above & beyond the fulfillment of these basic needs sometimes feel that these common daily chores are a waste of time. But are they really?
It is the time we “waste” with (& for) our children that will assure a good relationship with them & convince them of our love. This time has to be given joyfully with our wholehearted interest in their affairs. Never let your child think that you would rather be doing something else (although you may need to do something else), or that you feel you are wasting your time when you are with him.
One evening my friend Marilyn was in the midst of preparing gravy for dinner when her teenage son rushed into the kitchen shouting, “Mom, come outside quickly. I’ve got something to show you.”
There is a critical point in the preparation of gravy when it must be stirred in order to have a smooth consistency. Marilyn, who is a gourmet cook & relishes the thought of a perfect dinner, was at that critical preparation point & almost said, “Can’t you wait a minute? I’ve got to finish stirring the gravy.” But an inner sense said, “Go.” After all, it had been weeks since her son had asked her anything–or even wanted to be with the family. So she turned off the stove, removed the gravy, & went outside. Her son pointed to the western horizon & exclaimed, “Mom, look at that sunset! Isn’t that the most beautiful thing you have ever seen?” They both watched until the last rays disappeared.
A wasted moment? It may have seemed so, if smooth gravy is the thing you value most in your life. But as this mother said, “I’d eat lumpy gravy every night of the week to have that kind of daily experience with my teenager. After all, gravy soon disappears, but the relationship I establish with my son can last a lifetime.”
Diapering, feeding, dressing, or bathing the young child:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Talk (and listen) to the child.
- Pay full attention to the child with eye contact & touch.
- Encourage the child to participate.
- Teach the child something with each encounter (how to count, recognise colours etc.)
- Tell the child something that will build a healthy self-concept.
- Play games (when appropriate).
- Use this time to observe the child carefully.
- Convey your enjoyment of the experience.
Doctoring scratches & bruises:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Be helpful.
- Sympathize: Say, “I know it hurts.”
- For younger children who want it, apply a bandage whether needed or not.
- Give a hug, a kiss, or a love pat.
- Be willing to hold them for a few minutes.
- Accept appropriate crying. Ignore the inappropriate.
- Do something. Apply ice, blow the hurt away, hold it under cold water etc.
- Tell them about a similar incident that happened to you.
- Pray with the child.
Practicing musical instruments:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Let him know you are always willing to help.
- Show you are interested by saying, “When you are ready for an audience, I’d love to listen.”
- Sit down next to the child & listen for a few minutes even without an invitation.
- Focus your full attention on the child while you listen.
- Find something positive to say.
- If you think you have some helpful criticism, cushion it by asking if the child wants advice.
- Plan a performance time for the whole family.
- Let the child overhear you telling another family member how well he is doing–but be honest.
- When the child is discouraged, help him over a rough spot.
- Attend the music lesson occasionally–if the child wants you to.
- If you can, play something with the child.
Housecleaning (cleaning one room):–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Work together in close proximity so you can communicate.
- Sing as you work.
- Tell a story or an experience that happened at work.
- Make a game out of it.
- Have a tea party when finished–just the two of you.
- Compliment the child on something specific.
- Plan a surprise for another member of the family together.
- Make a cassette recording for the relatives by chatting back & forth while you work.
- Offer advice judiciously.
- Don’t expect perfection.
Preparing meals or washing dishes:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Let the child help with the planning.
- Encourage the child to make one dish alone.
- Make a point of telling the family about the dish your child prepared.
- Don’t rush. Plan a meal that is simple enough to prepare in the time allotted.
- Don’t expect perfection.
- When mistakes are made, don’t rub it in. Laugh, help clean up the mess, or tell the child about a similar incident when you made an even bigger mess.
- Find a kitchen job that fits the interest & skills of the child.
- While you are working, encourage the child to pull up a chair & read to you.
- Have the children do their homework at the kitchen table while you are working, so you can be available to answer a question if they need you.
- Work together on the dishes & clean-up.
- Surprise the child occasionally by doing one of his routine kitchen jobs for him.
Exercising & jogging:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Do it together.
- Find something the whole family enjoys.
- Talk as you exercise.
- Exercise with one child alone. Make this your special time together.
Shopping:–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
- Take the kids along (sometimes one at a time for a special outing with Mom).
- Give each child a list & have them find the right items.
- Teach them how to compare prices.
- Let them purchase something special that they want (within reason).
Schedule Time Together–How to Redeem Low-Quality Time
For many parents, job obligations become so pressing that they take more & more time away from the family. In addition, when a man spends so little time with his young children that they hardly know him, the children will tend to seek out mother for help & attention & may actually reject their father’s offers of help. Unless Dad is highly motivated to change the situation, he may leave more & more of the parenting responsibilities to Mom as he finds rewards & success in his career. When this happens, his wife & children see less & less of him & may begin to resent his career. They may even interpret the time he devotes to this career as an indication of his lack of love & concern for them.
Scheduling quality time together may be the only way busy families can ever find time for each other. But scheduling is just the first step. Keeping the appointment is equally important.
Connie Gils had this problem. She had a demanding job as an executive for a large international firm. She kept all of her important appointments in her “little black book.” Whenever her children wanted to do something special with her, she would take out her book to see if the time was free. In the majority of cases, she would have to shake her head & say, “No, kids, I’m sorry. I already have an important appointment.”
One day her son asked, “Mommy, do you think I’m an important appointment?”
“Well, yes, I do, Son,” she stammered.
“Then why don’t you write my name down in your book?”
Connie couldn’t argue with that so she handed the appointment book to the children. “You kids decide what you want me to do with you & then find a time that is empty & write it down. Then it will become one of my very important appointments.”
By planning time with her children weeks & months in advance she found it easier to schedule her business appointments around the children. She would just pull out her appointment book & if there was a conflict she would say, “I’m sorry, I have a previous commitment!” Those appointments to go backpacking, deep-sea fishing, rafting down the river, horseback riding, & stargazing are now among the family’s most meaningful memories.
Every family should set aside a regularly scheduled family time with which nothing is allowed to interfere. I suggest a once-a-week STAFF meeting. (That is S.T.A.F.F., as in “Steps to Active Family Fun.”) You may find it difficult to turn down the chairman of the church nominating committee when he says, “We must meet Tuesday night,” if you tell him that you had planned to pop popcorn & bob for apples with your children. But if you say, “Sorry, I have a STAFF meeting that night,” he seldom will persist.
When you begin to schedule quality time together, it is important that you & your child do those things that have the most meaning. List all of the family’s favorite activities. Brainstorm. Then rank these items from the most important to the least important. Finally, schedule those items that have a high priority. If you schedule only the easiest activities, or those that take the least effort or time, you probably won’t be able to do the most important ones.
Being considerate of others will take your children further in life than any college degree. Marian Wright Edelman
Two birthdays in a row for our support staff were enjoyed by all, the children appreciated each of them for their help and time they make it work for all!! Parent Sunila made the cakes and they tasted yummy. Ahan shared his birthday in school as well and was most happy with all his friends around him, our sunny boy!
In a twist from the classical attire on India’s important day, August 15th, Sunbird’s students all showed up as different freedom characters, from Rani Jhansi to Subra Chandra Bose. The best part was, that these youngsters already knew the role those freedom fighters played. At Sunbird, we also saluted Dr. Abdul Kalam, who is a freedom fighter in his own right. His inspiring ‘freedom speech’ that leads to peace for the nation, can be listened to on this link:
https://youtu.be/e23Evyrzdic : It is wonderful for teachers and parents to know what important role they play!
Part of Sunbird will always be having a great time while learning important facts! This is a little glimpse through the July month, where everyone, even the smallest, experience happy learning times in a safe, outdoor surroundings!
I hope that the series served as an inspiration and skill builder of how to get the best out of your relationship with your young child. This article completes the series. Well done to all those who followed and applied!
TEACHING THE JOY OF SHARING and SERVICE
“The only ones around you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.”–Albert Schweitzer
I have a friend who taught me a lesson about joy. He is a public person: That is, the public knows him. (I would guess that 50% of all persons in the Western world recognise his name, and perhaps 95% of those interested in sports.) One of our conversations was about pleasure. What did we do with our spare time? What did we do with those rare moments–rarer for him than for me–that we really had to ourselves? (Keep in mind, he could do anything, go anywhere, have anything that money could buy.) He said, “When I have a moment for myself, I try to use it to find some way to help someone. That’s where I find real happiness. It’s so much more fun than doing something for yourself.”
I’d heard that you can judge a man by what he does with his spare time. I used that criteria and judged this man to be great; maybe more importantly, I judged him to be joyful, because the joy of giving is so deep. The joy comes from losing one’s self in helping others, from dismissing self-worries to make room for other-worries. We make our living by what we get, but we make our life by what we give. Emerson said, “See how the masses of men worry themselves into nameless graves…while, here and there, a great, unselfish soul forgets himself into immortality.”
A personal recollection (Linda’s) may further illustrate the joy:
I remember that a particularly miserable time in my life came when I was in the sixth grade. I was 11 years old, considered my leftover baby fat anything but cute, and wore salmon-coloured “cat-eye” glasses which I abhorred. I sensed that I had no style &, worst of all, thought I had no friends. I was worried about who liked me and who didn’t, and each day I wondered whether or not the one marginal friend I thought I had would be nice to me.
One Saturday afternoon while I was getting ready for a school party, I began telling my mother my feelings. I don’t remember whether I just had not bothered to tell them to her before or whether she had passed them off lightly as childish whims when I had mentioned them. On this particular day, however, she took me seriously and could see that I was really concerned. As I donned my clothes, I said, “Mom, sometimes I feel so left out when I’m with other people. I just can’t think of anything to say and yet I feel so uncomfortable if no one talks to me.”
My mom, in her wisdom, gave me some counsel in those next few minutes that changed my life, “Linda, whenever you are with a group of people who are socialising with one another, look around; just stand back and look around a few minutes, and you will almost always see someone who needs you, someone who is feeling insecure and in need of a friend. You can tell by a look in the eye, a nervous mannerism, someone off by herself. Decide who needs you and then go to them; relate to them, ask questions about them, show them you care!”
This advice was like a miracle drug for my ailing soul. I went to the party. I stood back and observed. “There she is,” I thought as I saw Beverly, the girl with the stringy hair and the buckteeth, sweet but not too bright. Everyone knew that she lived in a strange, broken-down house outside of town with about nine brothers and sisters, equally untidy and shabby. I remember her as though it were yesterday, sitting quietly in a chair, looking at her hands, while those around her giggled and chattered and ignored her. But what will everyone think? I cringed in my immature mind. If I talk to her, everyone will think I’m dumb and “out of it” like they think she is. But my conscience told me it was right, so I walked over to her. Suddenly, instead of muddling in my own misery because I didn’t have any friends, I became her friend. I started by asking questions about her family and farm, and as the party wore on, I felt her warm acceptance and saw the joy in her eyes as she understood that somebody cared about her. But even more important to me, I was needed. I was providing a service to someone that, in time, made me grow to appreciate her. I also noticed that no one shunned me because of my association with her.
The experience gave me such a good feeling that I tried to pick out those who needed someone in other situations. As I began to forget myself in other people, I found that I was surrounded by a host of friends who really liked me for what I was.
If I could instill this in our children at an even younger age, how great their rewards would be. So often we say, “Oh, they’re too young to understand.” I wonder. Try teaching this principle to a four-year-old–you might be surprised.
You might start by performing “services” for each other. Services include anything from helping brother find his socks to letting sister use the new crayons. If we want children to love, we must teach them to serve. Older children can serve their younger brothers and sisters in countless ways!
Dare to Be Different–Poem by Helen Marshall
Dare to be different; life is so full
Of people who follow the same push-pull,
Poor, plodding people who, other than name,
Try to pretend they’re exactly the same.
God made men different; there never will be
A replica soul made of you or of me.
The charm–the glory of all creation
Rests on this very deviation.
Your charm–your own glory, too,
Lies in being uniquely you–
Lies in being true to your best,
That part of you different from all of the rest.
Sunbird’s Quote for the month:
Make it a rule never to give a child a book you would not read yourself.
–George Bernard Shaw
If you feel, that your child does not have enough opportunity to play outside, at Sunbird, the children spend at least two hours everyday, learning outdoors, having snacks outdoors and of course have lots of playtime!
Dear All Thanks to all the children, parents and visitors Sunbird Carnival was a blast with exciting games, face painting, arts and crafts stall and of course funny Jockel the Clown. All were in for a healthy treat with Mrs. Sunila’s yummy bakes from undercover bakers. Hope to see more of you soon in our fun place, where learning and happy times don’t stop.